Blog Manifesto

Blog Manifesto


This blog is dedicated, as the title would suggest, to the qualities of being young. We are young writers. We are playful and sensitive, fluid and changing. We are unashamed with our art. We wonder at the world, puzzle over the meanings of things and twirl in delight at images and ideas that float by, grabbing at them as they pass. We are curious and constantly inquiring and prying concepts open and taking assumptions apart. We are on the ground, close to the earth. We have bare feet and wiggle our toes into nature. We carry our blankies still and wrap up cozy and comfy with each other and tell ghost stories and shiver at creepy things. We laugh and we cry and we take a lot of naps, drained from our outings and exertions.

We write as gifts to each other, tying them up in ribbon and leaving them around for each other to find, hiding and waiting for the person to wake up and read. Surprise! We weave our stories together to create a bond. One writes, then the other. then another again. We have a shared reality that we have crafted, bit by piece by patch, by string. We write simple, honest authentic things, with our unique voices. You can tell each one of us from the other, without knowing who wrote what. Our voices are clear and gentle and original. We whisper and our personalities roar! Like children, our feelings are strong, our passion for what we write shakes us. We are moved and sometimes left breathless, by our own words or the words of each other. We cannonball into each others spaces. We fall backward into each others writing, like into a pile of leaves or a soft bed. We gobble and grin and ask for more. (footnote kudos to JC)

Then we go to bed, wake up to a new day and do it all over again!

Tuesday, April 10, 2012


Three ways to sell cars to women

My son and I went shopping for my new car. I had done the research and knew what I wanted.  In fact, we were going to a dealership that had the exact car I wanted at a decent price. Upon arrival, I felt the vibe immediately…the vibe from the salesman was ‘WOMAN BUYER’ also known as ‘EASY MARK’!
After the sales pitch, after I had not fallen for the bait and switch, after I had been unusually confrontational with the man, and my son and I were on our way home, he asked, ‘Mom, why were you so mean to the salesman?’ I thought about it. Why? indeed.
What was my experience with car buying as a woman that would lead me to treat them so badly.  And then I remembered…

During my first experience buying a car, when I was 21, I was helped by my dad.  We knew we would buy the 1965 Plymouth Barracuda! The long raked glass hatchback was the eye-catching style feature that appealed to me, and my dad liked the engine. So, it was decided. We’d get a salesman and buy. My dad and the salesman talked about the car for an hour and then the salesman decided to close the sale with me. He took me to the trunk and showed me how I could remove the spare tire and use the wheel well to store ice for the cool drinks I'd have at the beach party with this car. I thought he was an idiot!

Years later, a different salesman with the same attitude tried to sell me the car I would replace the Barracuda with.  I was alone and had no discussion about engine, mpgs, drive train, or handling. Nope! I was a lady and he knew how to sell to a lady. With flourish he walked to the passenger side , opened the door, had me sit in, and with a grand gesture showed me the ‘best’ feature, the visor flipped over to expose a mirror where I could ‘check your makeup with a lighted mirror’! Another idiot!

And when I went to buy my van to haul the children to soccer practice, what did the salesman say after I asked for the stripped down, no frills, V6, with power steering, power brakes, basic package in white, with radio and tape deck?  He said, as we walked through the lot, “Check this out.  You’ll really love this” And he held the keys aloft while tapping the fob. “Beep! Beep!”  the sound rang out. “You’ll never lose your car in the parking lot!”

Yup! That’s all it takes to sell a car to a woman!



it happened by accident...

the eye...

JC's sketch of an eye brought a faded memory back...


One day I took BJ to the mini mall. There was a photo booth that had a camera, a curtain, a bench, and a slot for depositing coins. We both thought it would be a fun way to create a memory. I had BJ sit down on the bench. I closed the curtain for privacy and read the instructions on the board in front of us:

#1. Deposit Coins
#2. Look into the lighted dot
#3. Sit very still
#4. Press button to start timer
#5. Do not blink 

BJ was born with optic nerve damage so simple eye tasks can be very difficult for her…and one of those tasks are to blink and not to blink on command. I told BJ to look directly at the dot... the lighted dot...and I reminded her…”Do not blink”!!!
I eye-balled the dot and visioned a straight line right to BJ... but it seemed like the camera would be taking pictures of her mid/lower body and we were aiming for facial shots… so we needed to adjust… 

Move In Closer...

BJ leaned inward positioning herself once again and looked at the dot…the lighted dot... again reminding her “Do not blink”!!!... Hmmm…still not right.

Closer BJ.....

BJ moved in even closer, this time kneeling down on both knees and pressing her face right up to the wall looking into the lighted dot...

That's It!!!

the button was pressed, the count down started 5,4,3,2,1 and snap...!!!


A couple of minutes had passed and the photo was processed...the best shot this photographer could ask for...it happened by accident all because we had no idea of what we were doing. We laughed hysterically...but then the laughter turned into a big “WOW, this is neat”!!!...
We framed this photo and it is displayed in our northern home...definitely a conversation piece...
      ...BJ's eye...